i took an emotional intelligence quiz a while back, and received my results!
the results are split into 5 different sections (all self explanatory) and is scored out of 100 based on your answers. my results were fucking ASS.
self-awareness
35/100
other awareness
61/100
emotional control
47/100
empathy
64/100
well-being
71/100
my main concerns were my self-awareness and emotional control. they were so low! but after reflecting, i realized the score was a reflection of myself and my experiences.
i realized that i am not where i want to be emotionally
tbh, before i took this quiz, i had no idea this shit even existed. i didn't even know emotional intelligence was even a thing. but, after taking this quiz, i understood how important it is to improve in this aspect of my life. i realized how much a lack of emotional control and self awareness i have, and how it affected not only me, but people in my life.
i tend to be very reactive. i have strong opinions, and when someone says something i disagree with, my first instinct is to call them out without taking the time to understand their perspective. this reaction comes from a lack of empathy and awareness—i don’t always consider how the other person feels or how my actions might affect them.
i’ve never truly reflected on my emotions or taken the time to understand why i feel the way i do. i experience anger, sadness, happiness, and more, but i’ve never paused to dig deeper into the root of those emotions or what triggers them. this is a problem because understanding myself better is essential. who am i, really? what’s my personality like? how do i interact with others, and how do i make them feel? why do i feel the need to be stubborn sometimes? why do i put so much pressure on myself to excel at everything i do? there are so many layers of myself that i’ve never fully explored.
developing self-awareness will help me gain a deeper understanding of both my negative traits and my positive ones. it will allow me to improve the parts of myself that need work while building on the qualities i’m proud of. i’ve also realized that these areas of growth are all interconnected—they don’t exist in isolation. making progress in one area will naturally lead to improvements in others, creating a cycle of personal growth and self-improvement.
step number 1 of the journey is to be open-minded
being open-minded is the first step to unlocking my full potential. i’ve strengthened my body at the gym, improved my skills in data analytics, and became more organized and clean. but emotional intelligence? that was taboo to me. i had to put my pride aside and commit to the journey of becoming a more emotionally intelligent person. it was fucking hard—and it still is—but i’ve kept my mind open and refused to let my stubbornness win.
constantly reminding myself of the value in improving my emotional intelligence and what i can gain and become at the end of it is what keeps me going. it’s not just about tackling the hard parts but about envisioning the version of myself i’m working toward—a better, stronger, and more complete person.
as boys, we tend to focus on improving our physical bodies but completely overlook emotional maturity.
emotional intelligence isn’t even something we’re aware of. we don’t talk about our emotions with each other—it’s seen as a sign of weakness. since we don’t talk about them, we just brush them off and hardly care about improving our emotional intelligence. there’s very little understanding of how important it actually is.
society and social conventions have made it hard for men to improve themselves emotionally. it is hard to see value in improving this aspect of our lives.
it's sad. but, I am incredibly grateful to have taken this quiz.
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