we all have first impressions. it is human nature.
however, i hate the idea of falling under those impressions. being labeled a certain type of person.
what are your thoughts on dyl?
he's really nice!
btw, i hate being called "nice".
tangent, but anybody can be "nice".
but not everyone can be kind.
kindness is genuine, whilst being nice can be an act
he's such a gym bro!
he's a nerd
he's goofy
he's so serious
he's so wholesome
see a pattern? each of these statements represents categories or labels that people assign to me based on my interactions with them.
what's the solution to this? well, the only way i can get past these labels are:
interact with people on a deeper level, where we really get to know each other
difficult, b/c time is limited
people will not truly know me after a couple of hangouts
work on myself and become as well-rounded as possible
the first is out of my control. however, the second is in my control.
my goal is to go against these conventions. i refuse to fall under any specific category or label.
one of the reasons i started this was to improve other areas of my life. why? because, deep down, i wanted to be able to adapt to any situation and distinguish myself by being unique.
i came to understand the importance of spending time with different types of people and pursuing unique, diverse hobbies across various "categories".
if i truly want to avoid being labeled, i need to focus on these things.
i’d like to preface by saying that i value hobbies that help me grow as a person. for example, i don't see any value in playing video games, so i choose not to play them. similarly, i find no value in scrolling on tik tok every day, so i avoid using it.
gym + being active + health
i post videos, reels, and pictures of me at the gym (and fucking around) w/ my friends
@soma_ton_nay.health
goofy, silly, but also motivating and serious at times
i learned how to box
continued my love for basketball
journey of finding new sports to play and be good at!
this hobby falls under 2 different categories
"gym bro"
"fun, goofy guy"
blogging
writing about my deep, inner thoughts
movie reviews + song analysis
pics w/ friends (for the memz!)
website design and making shit look nice
this hobby falls under
"creative/artsy/wholesome"
music taste + movie taste
i try my best to listen to different genres
pop, indie, rap etc...
"damn, i would not expect this gym bro to listen to t-swift everyday"
what i'm tryna go for
"prolly just a typical asian dude and listen to edm everyday and go to raves"
I HATE THIS! I WILL MAKE IT MY LIFE'S MISSION TO NOT BE PUT UNDER THIS LABEL!
i love watching different types of genres when it comes to movies
if the movie is good, i don't mind the genre
being a leader (more of a characteristic than a hobby, but will include)
becoming the best i can be in my field (career)
consistently improving my skills on my own time
money is important
taking things serious and not standing for any bs during certain situations
in high-stakes situations, whether in a group project or planning a trip that impacts others, i take initiative and act decisively to prevent issues, as i prefer to rely on myself rather than others.
this falls under
"organized, assertive, and responsible"
having fun!
partying
can come off as fratty (i do live in a frat house)
i enjoy hanging in small or large groups of people
this falls under
"social, extroverted, talkative"
i will continue my journey of being as well-rounded as possible
thanks for reading! i’ll continue to document my progress as i work on developing these different aspects of myself.
I AM NOT JUST ONE THING!!!!!!!!!!!
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